In English, we often say that "Every cloud has a silver lining," "Everything happens for a reason," or "It's a blessing in disguise." Filipinos believe that "Pitch darkness is followed by dawn," and "When everything is going wrong, try to do everything right." Czechs advise that "There is something good in everything bad," while old, Italian grandmothers assure their grandchildren that "Not all evil is to harm." All cultures have their own words of wisdom on how to deal with stress, but it all comes down to the same, basic premise: There is a lesson to be learned in even the most difficult situations. We may not see the lesson when we're in the midst of experiencing something stressful, but when we look back, we can see the benefits of going through the hardship"Žif only just to learn how to avoid going through it again.
If you're feelings stressed, here are some quicks tips to relieve the pressure:
The Silver Lining Exercise
No matter how tough a situation is, there is always some wisdom to be gleaned from it. For each stressor below, try to come up with at least one lesson that can be learned. We've provided some examples to get you started.
You receive a less-than-stellar performance review on a project that you put a great deal of work into.
Silver lining: At least I learned what I did wrong, and what I can do better next time.
Halfway through a project, your client decides he wants something completely different.
Silver lining: All is not lost. I can use the content I worked on for another project/client.
If you find your work day getting a little hectic to the point where you can almost feel your blood pressure rising, check out the tips below. Print them up and put them in place where you can access them easily. Keep in mind that coping techniques are easier to implement (and tend to be more effective) when you use them in the initial stages of the stress response. Don't allow your stress level to get too high - nip the problem in the bud!
Tips to reduce the physical impact of stress:
Tips to reduce the physical cognitive impact of stress:
Tips to reduce the emotional impact of stress:
Actions to take to take to make your day less stressful: